Experience is your teacher

..not only in cosplay but in every aspect of life 😀

Anyways what is this post all about? I’m referring to people who are afraid to make mistakes, afraid to be judged, or simply just don’t want to fall. Perfection is impossible, and it’s also a very subjective word. To one, “perfect” may mean either a rather extravagant or simple thing. We all have our definitions of “perfect”, so if we think it’s good, some may think it’s bad, but all in all, the decision is all ours, not others’.

I too started cosplaying not caring about so many stuff. I didn’t care about accuracy, make-up, angles, EVERYTHING. I was literally just… wanting to wear and act, but I didn’t do so much effort. I thought it was okay.


^That’s me as Haruno Sakura from Naruto: Shippuuden. I wore this way back 2006… No make-up, no wig, and I didn’t bother with a better pose. xD

And well. We all learn from mistakes. If you’re just starting out, don’t be afraid to fall. But if you did fall, learn why you made that mistake and hope to avoid doing the same thing next time. Learning is a lifetime experience, and we all don’t learn alone. I honestly learned from a lot of people and some of them are not even cosplayers! And…this is just my opinion, I’m not saying that this is what people should adapt, but this is mine: cosplay is NOT a way of life. You can earn money from it, you gain friends with it, you can get successful in it. BUT it’s not LIFE unless your life depended on it so heavily. What causes so much depression (what I have noticed) from most cosplayers is that they concentrate so much on cosplay, they forget what’s more important…to invest on the future. The pursuit of perfection in the hobby is the root of all frustration. Use what can be beneficial from cosplay but not FOR cosplay… For example. You learn to be more resourceful thanks to cosplay but don’t only use that skill for cosplay alone. If you know how to repair items, you could use that skill for other stuff and make it a career and not just for cosplay.

And guys. How do you deal with this?


This is Ms. Kichae (left) and me (right) as Serah Farron from Final Fantasy XIII-2. We’re not exactly in the same versions, but we are both Serah. If you were in my shoes?

Another issue detected…when encountering cosplayers who cosplay the same character as you. Honestly speaking, I used to have that terrible attitude problem too being so obsessive and I want to be the only one and I still sometimes do and I want to slap myself for it,  

I realized that having someone who cosplays the same character means. Someone loves your character too. You get to have a friend because you are both fans. And you both learn from each other if you lacked something or if you think your “twin” is really good, then learn from him or her. AND NOTE: LOOK AT ALL THE COSPLAYS OUT THERE. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS ONE COSPLAYER ONLY DID [INSERT CHARACTER NAME HERE]. Suck it in, no one can actually be the “best”. We all have our renditions. But there’s what we call “respectable” rendition. It would be offensive for the artist or creator of the character if we tried to ridicule the design, right? The reason why I wanted to do better is also because of respect for the artists who made the character.. I am an artist too and I don’t know what I would feel if the character I made is cosplayed…well…wrong.


And I said that I did want to improve, right?

One last issue I want to address to: Know your place.

We have cosplayer “veterans” or sempais. The internet provides all kinds of information. These cosplayers may not necessarily be famous, but they have been in the community for quite a long time or they have experiences in various events. Learn from them and don’t have this “I AM BETTER THAN THEM ANYWAY” attitude. In some ways, you could be better, but being better doesn’t mean you earn respect. Remember that being famous and being respected are two different things. Would you rather be famous but you have a lot of people who disrespect you, or, be respectable and not be known? If you are a respected cosplayer, people will listen to you and they would love to talk to you and be your friend. Let respect be your goal, not fame. Fame allows you to gain “friends”. But what happens if you lose that fame? You know that in the future, someone will be more famous than you…and those “friends” you have gained may have forgotten about you already. If you have respect, you will always be remembered even if you are no longer cosplaying.

Con-going Ethics Guide

Whether you’re new or used to attending themed events, let’s all remember that we are humans and are bound to social, political, and natural laws. Being in an event and while in cosplay does not entitle us to become like our characters, whoever we may be.

1. Be aware of the event schedule, activities, pricing, etc.

Always ask the event organizers or be informed before going to the event. Do not make plans if there is something unsure. Don’t blame event organizers all the time since what are we going to do without their event, right? They are doing the efforts in bringing together this fantastic community, so let’s just participate and do what we can to make it better and have fun in it altogether.

2. There is a floor plan, after all.

Booths stay in booth areas, the stage is the stage, and, hallways, are hallways. It’s actually unavoidable that if someone likes to get a photo of you, you tend to block a path…. As much as possible, for a win-win situation, ask the photographer if you can move to a spot where you won’t both be obstacles. This way, you are not bothering anyone, and then you get the shots that you want.

3. Events are not always about cosplay.

Do not show that “hey I am a cosplayer” kind of expression if you do not have any perks. Like everyone else, we cosplayers are also con-goers. We just happen to be in another category but we are con-goers like the others. If we are after cosplay, other con-goers could be after merchandise, art, music, and other things.

4. Stay humane.

Okay, so you are cosplaying [insert character name here]. That does not make you a god. In itself, the event has rules. You can get yourself a trip to jail just because you are “cosplaying”. Always observe proper behavior. You can emulate that character’s personality in a private photoshoot or in the stage performance. But while you are in the event area, do not do anything violent, or may disturb the common peace.

5. Be polite.

If in turn you are the one who wants to ask a photo from someone, related to the previous number… ask the cosplayer if s/he is okay to have a photo. If s/he declines, then still thank him or her and politely leave. If s/he agrees, ask if you can move to a more comfortable area where no one will be disturbed. If not, again, be polite and respect the decision. And, as much as possible, avoid getting stolen shots if you are not after covering the event. The cosplayer may sue you for not asking for permission and it could give you a bad reputation.

6. Be mindful of your belongings.

The event may have placed some garbage bins or a baggage counter. If not, you are responsible for all your stuff. Don’t just pick a random spot to leave all your stuff in, or throw your garbage just anywhere. This is an act of common decency and discipline, I need not elaborate.

7. You are representing the country if talking to a foreign/international guest.

Do some research on their culture before you try talking or communicating with them. Who knows that if for us, we think it’s still okay and fun, but for them it is already offensive and disturbing? Cosplay is now being held at many countries, and more cosplayers are taking the chance to try events in other parts of the world. They are very to kind to share their cosplay craft and ideas with our country, so give a good impression as well, since, not only are you promoting the country, you are also making other cosplayers see the country as a good place to share the craft.

8. Mind your own business/keep your fun within your circle.

It is unavoidable that sometimes your group has your own kind of humor or you just like fooling around. Other con-goers could find it annoying and offensive, they may think you are making fun of them or otakus are very unruly and boisterous. If we want to be respected, we should show why we should be respected. This is the reason why malls are getting stricter when it comes to cosplay events; the attitude we are showing is, well, rather unbecoming, and don’t give that “who cares” or “it’s none of their business” crap. We can only blame ourselves if the hobby here is getting judged and ridiculed. Always remember that whatever you show publicly will be used against you once you make a mistake.

9. Don’t wear your costume just right about anywhere.

There are places in public events that could shoo away customers or attendees. If it’s inappropriate or could possibly create scandal, make sure to change to your civilian clothing before entering said establishments. Again, we otakus don’t want to be judged for our actions. And remember that you can’t say “it’s my fashion, deal with it” excuse. We have different cultures, and even in the country, we are still divided regarding the more conservative and the open-minded groups.

10. Lastly, be friendly.

You are just a cosplayer. And if you’re quite known, don’t give that glare. You are appreciated because of the others, and you will be more appreciated if you mingle more. Don’t look down on others….if you think some people need to learn, then be an inspiration, not a source of frustration. It’s not being uptight, it’s just doing the right thing. Do it because you want to show what cosplay is, and not to seek more fame. It’s to attract proper behavior. Sometimes, people act like their “idols”. If their idol is, well, rather, in some attitude that’s not really good, those who admire that person would eventually want to act like that and think it’s cool. Another thing… cosplay, whether serious business or not, is still cosplay. We have other priorities too. But remember that the friends we gain in cosplay, the true friendships that we build will stay even if we retire from the hobby. Besides, where would the fun come from without our friends, right?


Art Stuff

I also do artworks! Well in all honesty, I’ve been doing artworks ever since I can’t even recall. Let’s say that this is my hobby ever since, and if I quit cosplay, I definitely won’t quit drawing.

I have a deviantArt account: http://averia-avie.deviantart.com/

Most of my artworks are there.

These are just a few of what I draw:

Kairi Namine Lightning Original character Shiki Misaki

I actually started with traditional drawing. I prefer using Unipin drawing pens of different weights (0.5, 0.4, 0.3, 0.2, and 0.1). I use a fine permanent pen for bolder lines. And for coloring, I use watercolor pencils, oil pastels,  and copic markers. I usually use a watercolor sketch pad and a normal sketch pad for traditional artworks. As for digital artworks, I use Paint Tool SAI and Adobe Photoshop CS3 (I actually have CS6 but I still prefer Cs3. maybe because Cs6 hangs up in my PC).

I don’t actually have a particular style (other than maybe because I am a fan of Nomura Tetsuya)… to me, I just follow my mood. Art is a way of expressing for me so I just draw what I have in mind. To those who want to try art, don’t be afraid! Just follow a style you want and just express yourself.